Battling cancer is a gruelling experience for both cancer fighters as well as their caregivers. While we try our best to support our loved ones on their cancer-fighting journey, appreciation is not always guaranteed. This can lead to self-doubt: “Have I done enough?” or “Have they changed?” The truth is that clear communication is often the missing piece between us and our loved ones.
Here are some useful tips that you can try when communicating with your loved ones!
Express yourself clearly with “I” statements
Instead of blaming statements like “You don’t really care about me,” try statements that focus on your feelings and needs. For example, “I feel sad whenever I need to go for treatment alone. Having your support would mean a lot to me.”
Actively listen and reflect back to understand
Effective communication goes beyond just speaking. Take time to truly listen to your loved one. After they express themselves, try reflecting back on what you heard to ensure understanding.
Convey attentiveness through nonverbal cues
Your body language can speak volumes! When your loved one is talking, show them you are fully engaged through nonverbal cues such as maintaining an open posture and leaning in slightly, maintaining eye contact while using encouraging nods and smiles and minimising distractions by putting away your phone.
Adjust your communication style to foster connection
During conversations, consider how your tone and approach might be perceived. Are you having a conversation with your loved ones as an adult, parent or child?
Empower yourself with daily coping skills and techniques! “Words that W.O.R.K!” is a fun and engaging Therapeutic Support Programme (TSP) that uses playful techniques to help you become more mindful of your communication style. Through this programme, you will discover both verbal and non-verbal habits that might hinder or strengthen your daily interactions with the people around you. You will explore ways to express your needs clearly and effectively and navigate the inevitable miscommunications that arise in conversations. Join our Therapeutic Support Programmes to learn more!
